Children are those small simple beings who understand things as they are. Childhood is the time when we can instil good values and morals in our children which can help them become responsible, self-reliant and confident individuals all their life. What we, as parents, need to be careful about is, that we do this with extra care and precautions because children grab the emotions and words very quickly and things said or done wrongly can leave them wondering about the right or wrong. Therefore, we have listed down certain ways in which you can help boost your child’s confidence and self-esteem and lay a solid foundation for their life.

Teach Them to be Accountable for their Actions

Teaching our children to be accountable for their actions helps them to learn about the power that is in their hands- the power to shape their future in spite of the competition and environment around them. They get to know about their strengths and weaknesses & are able to develop their own perspective about things.

Assign Household Jobs

Assign suitable household chores to your children like letting them clean their room, helping with cleaning the house, buying the grocery and arranging them in the kitchen, etc. While you ask them to do any of the jobs, tell them why you chose them to do that job. Also, promote problem-solving instead of labelling, i.e. rather than blaming them for any mistake they have committed, help them become the problem solver.

Give Genuine Compliments

Flattery and unearned praises are things that don’t work with the Gen-Y kids. Therefore, when your children do something that is worth the praise; tell them they did great while also telling them about how to improve for the next time. Praise them only when they have earned it or they will no longer feel that you are being true and genuine with your compliments.

Call them out their Strengths, Values & Negative Emotions

Don’t be afraid of calling them out their strengths and weaknesses, their values and their negative emotions. Make them feel good about themselves by telling them about their strengths and values. Also, tell them that every cloud has a silver lining when they feel low because of their weaknesses and negative emotions.

Challenge Them & Allow Them to Fall

As our children progress in various aspects of their lives, our role as parents requires us to challenge them to push their boundaries and strive for the next challenge. So, give them next level challenges and help them achieve those. However, if they fall, allow them to do so but be there for them when it happens and tell them that they should never ever give up on anything.

Help them Trust themselves

We, as parents are the support system of our children and should trust the abilities and capabilities of our children. Therefore, just like we trust our children and their potential, we should help them build trust in themselves and their strengths. Tell your children “I believe in you” and so should you. This tip will certainly help you to boost your child’s confidence.

Resist Sweeping Comparisons

We, as parents should never compare our children with anyone. Never should we tell our children that they are not as good as some other person nor should we praise them while comparing with others. Instead, while praising or criticising our children for their achievements or failures, we should keep in mind that we compare what they were yesterday with what they are today. Tell them that practice will make them perfect and that they should focus only on themselves.

Empower your children by seeing their Best Self

When you observe something positive about your children, praise them but be very specific about what you observed and what you liked about it. Specific praises make the children feel that whatever they have done is being considered and appreciated. This, in turn, will make them feel better and more confident about doing certain things and trying new ones. This is a great way to boost your child’s confidence.

Encourage them to express themselves and help them relate to Emotions

Encourage your children to take part in discussions, share their views and thoughts and be open to disagreements and arguments. Tell them that there can be many opinions on one thing and that they should respect those opinions while holding on to their own. Also, help them recognise and get comfortable with their emotions by acknowledging them. Doing so helps them recognise emotions like anger, sadness, frustration, etc., and shows that you are accepting their emotions without judgement.

Make clear that you Love is Unconditional

Let your children know that you love them even when they fail, don’t perform well or make bad decisions. Your children will flourish the most when you accept them for who they are regardless of their strengths, weaknesses, emotions, temperaments, etc. Tell them that you love them and assure them that they are safe.

Follow these few simple tips and be the best friend and the best parent and boost your child’s confidence.

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